Remember when you were in middle school and you'd write a girl a note with something like "Do you like me? Check [ ] Yes [ ] No?"
That doesn't work on women.
OK, maybe you are in Junior High and you're getting up the nerve to ask your first girl out on a date. The advice below can apply to you, too.
Before you ask, there are a few things you should do to increase your chance for success:
Talk to her.
Do you know her well enough? Do you have a common interest? What are you going to do on a date?
Get to know her a little bit, and figure out if you'd be good in a relationship. Find out ways you can hang out with her. There is no "dating" or "not dating:" it's a gradual process.
Become part of her social group
To quote those literary geniuses The Spice Girls, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." This is practical advice: by becoming part of her social group, you will learn new things about her, and you can naturally be included in her activities. It helps if you have similar hobbies, so you have something to do together.
Some dating experts even recommend getting to know the friends of the girl you are interested in before talking to her. This way she will become curious about you, and if she asks her friends about you they'll likely encourage the two of you to get together.
Once you know her, it's time to ask.
This guy has some pretty good tips:
Notice that they're both relaxed, and he doesn't make a big deal about the question. If you've been around each other for a while, it should feel comfortable to talk to her in this way, and you will know when to ask and what to say. Coffee is always a safe bet: it's a low-pressure environment, and if the conversation goes astray there's nothing keeping you there. If you feel confident, you might plan dinner or an activity.
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